a 29 year old virgin

**lvstealth** · 05-23-12 at 08:32 AM

The model Olympic hurdling star who can't find a boyfriend - because she's a virgin

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2148269/Lolo-Jones-Olympic-hurdling-star-boyfriend-shes-virgin.html

smiles,
Mandy

Adanaliyik · 05-23-12 at 08:48 AM

If you tell a guy you're not interested in sex before marriage, and after 3 months you tell him you're not interested in him as a marriage prospect either, of course he'll dump you...

I dated my 2nd wife for a year without any kind of sex, because she was a virgin and I respected that. But if she told me 6 months into our relationship that she still wanted to date but didn't want to think about marriage for another 4 or 5 years, I wouldn't have stuck around waiting.

I'm only guessing here, but I'm pretty sure she tells her "boyfriends" that she doesn't want to get married until her career is officially over, since having kids would ruin her ability to compete. Guys can be patient with a girl for a few months or a year (like I was), but she's right that finding a guy who will date her for 5 years without anything at all is very difficult...

:)

**lvstealth** · 05-23-12 at 09:06 AM

wow! i searched the article for those between the line assumptions you made and ... well just wow!

laughing aloud!
Mandy

dannie9 · 05-23-12 at 09:20 AM

shes definitely hot enough for me to wait as long as it takes to depurify

Narubxan · 05-23-12 at 09:27 AM

Quote: Originally Posted by Adanaliyik

I dated my 2nd wife for a year without any kind of sex, because she was a virgin and I respected that. But if she told me 6 months into our relationship that she still wanted to date but didn't want to think about marriage for another 4 or 5 years, I wouldn't have stuck around waiting.

So you two dated for a year and married? damn, ive been dating for almost 2 and marriage is still a far off idea that never came up aside from a joke, less than 5 years is unconceivable... if im going to actually "be with someone for life" or at least have legal bindings to someone i rather be damn sure, 1 year is hardly enough to know someone.

If i couldnt have sex with her for the duration, i wouldnt care... hands are fine, sex is awesome and feels great, but it is a perk... not a need. Wouldnt dumb someone i truly "love" for not having enough sex.
Besides you can always talk with people and agree on sleeping on the side till then, not many would accept it but quite a few would.

Anyway! OT:

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being a virgin is 'harder than training for the Olympics'

Oooh? i wasnt aware that doing nothing is harder than training for olympics... damn, all those basement dwellers must be really strong willed.

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being a virgin makes it extremely hard for her to find a boyfriend.

Might be a cultural clash, but who the hell cares if the other person is a virgin or not?
If anything it might be attractive if you are a jealous person because it means she wont have a "past" horde of ex-boyfriends that you have to worry about and fear to be compared to all the time.

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You get judged a lot, a lot of guys won't return your calls after they find out

Hmmm ok, fair enough i can see this happening the same way it happens when i tell people i dont drink alcohol or cafeine, smoke drugs or tobacco.
Its the whole "do you think you are better than me?" kind of self analysis :P Never said im better, i find it hilarious how people feel inferior and get offended by a simple statement such as "i dont drink"... wonder if it is the same case here? Even so, the quality of the guys she tries to date shows very well if they dont return a call for her being a virgin :S
(she's better off alone)

Quote:

She also said on the program that she has grown accustomed to being rejected by men as a result of her beliefs.

That explains it more than "being a virgin" to me... then again i am assuming.

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'So we'll talk usually one to three months [later], then they're like "oh shoot, she was serious". Time for me to exit.'

Lol, "oh noes, i will have to actually put effort into the relationship to make the person i supposedly care for want me enough to marry and have sex"
Damn ,she found the best "dump a douche who just wants whats between your legs" method ever.

Anyway, this is hilarious and quite sad at the same time

**CyberKingdom** · 05-23-12 at 09:28 AM

Maybe she just enjoys taking it from behind.

Narubxan · 05-23-12 at 09:46 AM

Quote: Originally Posted by CyberKingdom

Maybe she just enjoys taking it from behind.

*ba dum tssssh*

**anomander** · 05-23-12 at 09:51 AM

Is the stool a part of her body because that might explain some of it? But then I suppose she couldnt hurdle if it was so its probably not

Nothing wrong with being a virgin per se for me ...........but being 29 and still one hints at issues with sex and to be honest lifes too short to get involved with women who might have those.Waiting for sex with your partner? Why would I do that? When I,m hungry I dont wait to eat do I!!! Any new girl ....shes got two weeks or 3 dates whichever comes first after that I,m outta there got more respect for girls who give it up on first date at least it shows willing and that she listens!! haha
....and narub saying you wouldnt care whether you have sex with your new gf and that its a perk?? Uh uh uh! No its not a perk that is ridiculous in this day and age neither is it more biased towards us men ....quite the reverse these days if anything women get by far the best deal in it! I would only class sex as a perk if I was stopping with my cousin for the week maybe lol other than that its a necessity in a relationship because you would have to think if I,m not getting it then wtf not!! and why the hell am I here??

Adanaliyik · 05-23-12 at 09:55 AM

Quote: Originally Posted by lvstealth

wow! i searched the article for those between the line assumptions you made and ... well just wow!

laughing aloud!
Mandy

If you're looking for specific quotes from her, of course you won't find them. But, if a guy sticks around for 3 months, he's probably popped the question by then. If the answer to the question is positive or at least encouraging, he'd probably stick around longer.

But if at that point, the response is either a flat negative, or a "let's date for a couple more years until I'm 100% sure I want to marry you", I don't see the men sticking around.

So, there's got to be a reason why after 3 months the guy bails. If it's not as I said above, then the only other thing that makes sense is the "I won't get married until I want kids, and I don't want kids until I'm done with my career" answer. Well, that and the fact that she might be a complete ball buster and the men can only put up with her sh*t for so long, but I didn't want to say bad things about her that I had no reference for.

You know, women aren't the only ones who have clocks. A man's clock isn't a biological imperative like a woman's is. But a man who dates a woman who tells him that there's no chance of sex for at least the next couple of years, is going to look at his clock and find better things to do.

:)

Narubxan · 05-23-12 at 10:04 AM

Hahahah we have different views Anon, i dont see sex as the objective of a relationship.
Maybe as a reward of one, or a perk of one, but that is it.
I have no problems with sex however mind you, i enjoy it and appreciate it without qualms, experimenting and having run learning.

But admittedly sex does have emotional impact, to "give yourself" to another after meeting three times is something i cannot understand to be fairly honest.
A relationship can exist without sex, what is a friendship if not sexless relationship? or maybe you do think of f*cking them all, guys included? :D *wink*

Quote: Originally Posted by Adanaliyik

if a guy sticks around for 3 months, he's probably popped the question by then. If the answer to the question is positive or at least encouraging, he'd probably stick around longer.

whaaaaaat? ask for marriage after 3 months? no wonder there are so many divorces :P

**lvstealth** · 05-23-12 at 10:12 AM

at this point her virginity seems to be set up as a prize. what if it is like a bottle of fine wine... great at maturity but might just turn to vinegar prior to popping the cork if it is stored too long or not in the right way!

well, Adan, i see far more reasons that the ones you proffer, but i do so enjoy your either/or analysis of another's psyche!

smiling,
Mandy

**blaxroze** · 05-23-12 at 10:15 AM

I dont think being a virgin is a problem to me. Maybe she save it for her future husband.

**anomander** · 05-23-12 at 10:30 AM

Quote: Originally Posted by Narubxan

Hahahah we have different views Anon, i dont see sex as the objective of a relationship.
Maybe as a reward of one, or a perk of one, but that is it.
I have no problems with sex however mind you, i enjoy it and appreciate it without qualms, experimenting and having run learning.

But admittedly sex does have emotional impact, to "give yourself" to another after meeting three times is something i cannot understand to be fairly honest.
A relationship can exist without sex, what is a friendship if not sexless relationship? or maybe you do think of f*cking them all, guys included? :D *wink

"Give yourself" haha I,m starting to think some of you still think its the 50s on here!! Of course a relationship can be without sex my best friend of the last 15 years is a woman and its never crossed our minds about each other ....but thats a friendship not a gf/bf thing.If I,m entering what could be a sexual get together then I,m quite happy the girl is upfront and just lays it on the table (metaphorically or actually haha) I slept with my wife first night I didnt think "she,s a tramp" I thought great for my ego she wanted it as much as I did! That old fashioned men chase women give in thing is nauseating and thankfully a thing of the past where I,m from.Women are as predatory and sexualised as men,more so even .........true equality ........see I,m quite the women,s libber haha

Narubxan · 05-23-12 at 10:54 AM

Quote: Originally Posted by anomander

"Give yourself" haha I,m starting to think some of you still think its the 50s on here!! Of course a relationship can be without sex my best friend of the last 15 years is a woman and its never crossed our minds about each other ....but thats a friendship not a gf/bf thing.If I,m entering what could be a sexual get together then I,m quite happy the girl is upfront and just lays it on the table (metaphorically or actually haha) I slept with my wife first night I didnt think "she,s a tramp" I thought great for my ego she wanted it as much as I did! That old fashioned men chase women give in thing is nauseating and thankfully a thing of the past where I,m from.Women are as predatory and sexualised as men,more so even .........true equality ........see I,m quite the women,s libber haha

Oh i dont think a girl who gives herself right away is a tramp, my current gf was also first night :P
And no, my view is different from the 50's, sadly it does go near it but not the same at all :D
And i do know that woman are as predatorial as guys, its everywhere, expect in some areas they arent expected to be and are repressed :P Honestly i think they get more out of sex than guys do.

but i do not like the idea of doing it with a stranger really, my gf, we knew each other for several months before doing it, there was always the desire admittedly and i dont think any less of either of us for that.

dont know how to put it, but it has nothing to do with 50s mentality

You do give yourself to another as they give to you, i prefer to be sure the transaction is fair and balanced, so many take so much and give so little.
Hmmm dont have enough time to explain it in detail so you are all spared from a wall of text :P

05-23-12 at 10:04 AM	#10
Narubxan Master Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: in the Twilight Posts: 1,063	Hahahah we have different views Anon, i dont see sex as the objective of a relationship. Maybe as a reward of one, or a perk of one, but that is it. I have no problems with sex however mind you, i enjoy it and appreciate it without qualms, experimenting and having run learning. But admittedly sex does have emotional impact, to "give yourself" to another after meeting three times is something i cannot understand to be fairly honest. A relationship can exist without sex, what is a friendship if not sexless relationship? or maybe you do think of fcking them all, guys included? :D wink* Quote: Originally Posted by Adanaliyik if a guy sticks around for 3 months, he's probably popped the question by then. If the answer to the question is positive or at least encouraging, he'd probably stick around longer. whaaaaaat? ask for marriage after 3 months? no wonder there are so many divorces :P Last edited by Narubxan; 05-23-12 at 10:06 AM.

05-23-12 at 10:54 AM	#14
Narubxan Master Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: in the Twilight Posts: 1,063	Quote: Originally Posted by anomander "Give yourself" haha I,m starting to think some of you still think its the 50s on here!! Of course a relationship can be without sex my best friend of the last 15 years is a woman and its never crossed our minds about each other ....but thats a friendship not a gf/bf thing.If I,m entering what could be a sexual get together then I,m quite happy the girl is upfront and just lays it on the table (metaphorically or actually haha) I slept with my wife first night I didnt think "she,s a tramp" I thought great for my ego she wanted it as much as I did! That old fashioned men chase women give in thing is nauseating and thankfully a thing of the past where I,m from.Women are as predatory and sexualised as men,more so even .........true equality ........see I,m quite the women,s libber haha Oh i dont think a girl who gives herself right away is a tramp, my current gf was also first night :P And no, my view is different from the 50's, sadly it does go near it but not the same at all :D And i do know that woman are as predatorial as guys, its everywhere, expect in some areas they arent expected to be and are repressed :P Honestly i think they get more out of sex than guys do. but i do not like the idea of doing it with a stranger really, my gf, we knew each other for several months before doing it, there was always the desire admittedly and i dont think any less of either of us for that. dont know how to put it, but it has nothing to do with 50s mentality You do give yourself to another as they give to you, i prefer to be sure the transaction is fair and balanced, so many take so much and give so little. Hmmm dont have enough time to explain it in detail so you are all spared from a wall of text :P Last edited by Narubxan; 05-23-12 at 10:57 AM.

05-23-12 at 08:48 AM	#2
Adanaliyik Master Join Date: May 2012 Location: Turkey Posts: 1,162	If you tell a guy you're not interested in sex before marriage, and after 3 months you tell him you're not interested in him as a marriage prospect either, of course he'll dump you... I dated my 2nd wife for a year without any kind of sex, because she was a virgin and I respected that. But if she told me 6 months into our relationship that she still wanted to date but didn't want to think about marriage for another 4 or 5 years, I wouldn't have stuck around waiting. I'm only guessing here, but I'm pretty sure she tells her "boyfriends" that she doesn't want to get married until her career is officially over, since having kids would ruin her ability to compete. Guys can be patient with a girl for a few months or a year (like I was), but she's right that finding a guy who will date her for 5 years without anything at all is very difficult... :)

05-23-12 at 09:06 AM	#3
lvstealth Give me your Glow juice.. Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Tennessee, USA Posts: 5,126	wow! i searched the article for those between the line assumptions you made and ... well just wow! laughing aloud! Mandy

05-23-12 at 09:20 AM	#4
dannie9 Expert Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 641	shes definitely hot enough for me to wait as long as it takes to depurify

05-23-12 at 09:27 AM	#5
Narubxan Master Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: in the Twilight Posts: 1,063	Quote: Originally Posted by Adanaliyik I dated my 2nd wife for a year without any kind of sex, because she was a virgin and I respected that. But if she told me 6 months into our relationship that she still wanted to date but didn't want to think about marriage for another 4 or 5 years, I wouldn't have stuck around waiting. So you two dated for a year and married? damn, ive been dating for almost 2 and marriage is still a far off idea that never came up aside from a joke, less than 5 years is unconceivable... if im going to actually "be with someone for life" or at least have legal bindings to someone i rather be damn sure, 1 year is hardly enough to know someone. If i couldnt have sex with her for the duration, i wouldnt care... hands are fine, sex is awesome and feels great, but it is a perk... not a need. Wouldnt dumb someone i truly "love" for not having enough sex. Besides you can always talk with people and agree on sleeping on the side till then, not many would accept it but quite a few would. Anyway! OT: Quote: being a virgin is 'harder than training for the Olympics' Oooh? i wasnt aware that doing nothing is harder than training for olympics... damn, all those basement dwellers must be really strong willed. Quote: being a virgin makes it extremely hard for her to find a boyfriend. Might be a cultural clash, but who the hell cares if the other person is a virgin or not? If anything it might be attractive if you are a jealous person because it means she wont have a "past" horde of ex-boyfriends that you have to worry about and fear to be compared to all the time. Quote: You get judged a lot, a lot of guys won't return your calls after they find out Hmmm ok, fair enough i can see this happening the same way it happens when i tell people i dont drink alcohol or cafeine, smoke drugs or tobacco. Its the whole "do you think you are better than me?" kind of self analysis :P Never said im better, i find it hilarious how people feel inferior and get offended by a simple statement such as "i dont drink"... wonder if it is the same case here? Even so, the quality of the guys she tries to date shows very well if they dont return a call for her being a virgin :S (she's better off alone) Quote: She also said on the program that she has grown accustomed to being rejected by men as a result of her beliefs. That explains it more than "being a virgin" to me... then again i am assuming. Quote: 'So we'll talk usually one to three months [later], then they're like "oh shoot, she was serious". Time for me to exit.' Lol, "oh noes, i will have to actually put effort into the relationship to make the person i supposedly care for want me enough to marry and have sex" Damn ,she found the best "dump a douche who just wants whats between your legs" method ever. Anyway, this is hilarious and quite sad at the same time

05-23-12 at 09:28 AM	#6
CyberKingdom Master Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Houston, TX Posts: 1,105	Maybe she just enjoys taking it from behind.

05-23-12 at 09:46 AM	#7
Narubxan Master Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: in the Twilight Posts: 1,063	Quote: Originally Posted by CyberKingdom Maybe she just enjoys taking it from behind. ba dum tssssh

05-23-12 at 09:51 AM	#8
anomander Reborn Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 4,011	Is the stool a part of her body because that might explain some of it? But then I suppose she couldnt hurdle if it was so its probably not Nothing wrong with being a virgin per se for me ...........but being 29 and still one hints at issues with sex and to be honest lifes too short to get involved with women who might have those.Waiting for sex with your partner? Why would I do that? When I,m hungry I dont wait to eat do I!!! Any new girl ....shes got two weeks or 3 dates whichever comes first after that I,m outta there got more respect for girls who give it up on first date at least it shows willing and that she listens!! haha ....and narub saying you wouldnt care whether you have sex with your new gf and that its a perk?? Uh uh uh! No its not a perk that is ridiculous in this day and age neither is it more biased towards us men ....quite the reverse these days if anything women get by far the best deal in it! I would only class sex as a perk if I was stopping with my cousin for the week maybe lol other than that its a necessity in a relationship because you would have to think if I,m not getting it then wtf not!! and why the hell am I here??

05-23-12 at 09:55 AM	#9
Adanaliyik Master Join Date: May 2012 Location: Turkey Posts: 1,162	Quote: Originally Posted by lvstealth wow! i searched the article for those between the line assumptions you made and ... well just wow! laughing aloud! Mandy If you're looking for specific quotes from her, of course you won't find them. But, if a guy sticks around for 3 months, he's probably popped the question by then. If the answer to the question is positive or at least encouraging, he'd probably stick around longer. But if at that point, the response is either a flat negative, or a "let's date for a couple more years until I'm 100% sure I want to marry you", I don't see the men sticking around. So, there's got to be a reason why after 3 months the guy bails. If it's not as I said above, then the only other thing that makes sense is the "I won't get married until I want kids, and I don't want kids until I'm done with my career" answer. Well, that and the fact that she might be a complete ball buster and the men can only put up with her sh*t for so long, but I didn't want to say bad things about her that I had no reference for. You know, women aren't the only ones who have clocks. A man's clock isn't a biological imperative like a woman's is. But a man who dates a woman who tells him that there's no chance of sex for at least the next couple of years, is going to look at his clock and find better things to do. :)

05-23-12 at 10:12 AM	#11
lvstealth Give me your Glow juice.. Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Tennessee, USA Posts: 5,126	at this point her virginity seems to be set up as a prize. what if it is like a bottle of fine wine... great at maturity but might just turn to vinegar prior to popping the cork if it is stored too long or not in the right way! well, Adan, i see far more reasons that the ones you proffer, but i do so enjoy your either/or analysis of another's psyche! smiling, Mandy

05-23-12 at 10:15 AM	#12
blaxroze Expert Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 950	I dont think being a virgin is a problem to me. Maybe she save it for her future husband.

05-23-12 at 10:30 AM	#13
anomander Reborn Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 4,011	Quote: Originally Posted by Narubxan Hahahah we have different views Anon, i dont see sex as the objective of a relationship. Maybe as a reward of one, or a perk of one, but that is it. I have no problems with sex however mind you, i enjoy it and appreciate it without qualms, experimenting and having run learning. But admittedly sex does have emotional impact, to "give yourself" to another after meeting three times is something i cannot understand to be fairly honest. A relationship can exist without sex, what is a friendship if not sexless relationship? or maybe you do think of fcking them all, guys included? :D wink "Give yourself" haha I,m starting to think some of you still think its the 50s on here!! Of course a relationship can be without sex my best friend of the last 15 years is a woman and its never crossed our minds about each other ....but thats a friendship not a gf/bf thing.If I,m entering what could be a sexual get together then I,m quite happy the girl is upfront and just lays it on the table (metaphorically or actually haha) I slept with my wife first night I didnt think "she,s a tramp" I thought great for my ego she wanted it as much as I did! That old fashioned men chase women give in thing is nauseating and thankfully a thing of the past where I,m from.Women are as predatory and sexualised as men,more so even .........true equality ........see I,m quite the women,s libber haha