Good Friends Bad Friends

JamesAutumn · 1 Day Ago at 01:08 PM

I've been thinking lately on alot of things in my life and one of the toughest topics is friends.

Lately i have stopped doing alot of things i felt were bad to my health and leading me down a path to bad choices and regrets. in my doing so alot of friends that were good to me since i was little have not agreed with my lifestyle change and have pretty much shunned me and called me alot of hurtful things. So i would love to know your heartfelt thoughts on what you think a friend is and should be and how to not let the past example of bad friends translate into a new friendship.

I know thats a mouthful what i just said but i do encourage anyone to pick any of what i've said and come up with a wonderful comment[taco pictures cheer meh up to jus sayin]

----James

hansy · 1 Day Ago at 01:42 PM

the way i understand it, those werent your friends, just comrades who did "stupid" stuff with you. you seem to mature up and they dont.

real friends support you and are there for you when needed (the most) are very rare. you see the peoples true faces when you need them and they have to "sacrifices" something for you, even if its "just time".

i wish you good luck and hopefully you find some real friends who dont insult you, if you dont do stupid stuff. unless you're from the jackass crew, thats different!

**dormin** · 1 Day Ago at 03:48 PM

Friendship like love are identical except for the sex. First off if they are true friends then they would not have supported you, while you where hurting you. By that I mean, if you smoke crack, they would have been there for you to help you quit. Not to supply and smoke it with you.

Friends are like common sense. Not enough to go around. We use the word too loosely. Same with Uncle and Aunt. Anyway what hansy said with a few extra's thrown in.

Usually one can count true friends with one or both hands. Glad you are re-evaluating your life and choosing a better path. Now lets see who can keep up with you.

I rather have 1 or 2 true friends then 20 fakers or wanna be's. Its an extremely exclusive club in my world and takes years to get in.

hvk001 · 1 Day Ago at 03:59 PM

Basically what hansy said. There is a big difference between people you hang with and your friends. I'm speaking from experience when I say that people who shun you when you don't do 'stupid stuff' (we all know what you mean) are everything but your friend. Most of the time there are, strangely as it sounds, actually jalouse because they know you are making the right decision and they are not strong enough to do the same. Everytime they are in contact with you, you remind them of that and that's why they avoid you now.
Stay strong, it's worth it (again, saying this from experience).

Here's a taco for you:

1 Day Ago at 03:59 PM	#4
hvk001 Expert Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Next door Posts: 866	Basically what hansy said. There is a big difference between people you hang with and your friends. I'm speaking from experience when I say that people who shun you when you don't do 'stupid stuff' (we all know what you mean) are everything but your friend. Most of the time there are, strangely as it sounds, actually jalouse because they know you are making the right decision and they are not strong enough to do the same. Everytime they are in contact with you, you remind them of that and that's why they avoid you now. Stay strong, it's worth it (again, saying this from experience). Here's a taco for you: Last edited by hvk001; 1 Day Ago at 04:23 PM.

1 Day Ago at 01:42 PM	#2
hansy Novice Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 113	the way i understand it, those werent your friends, just comrades who did "stupid" stuff with you. you seem to mature up and they dont. real friends support you and are there for you when needed (the most) are very rare. you see the peoples true faces when you need them and they have to "sacrifices" something for you, even if its "just time". i wish you good luck and hopefully you find some real friends who dont insult you, if you dont do stupid stuff. unless you're from the jackass crew, thats different!

1 Day Ago at 03:48 PM	#3
dormin Illuminati Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: 3rd Rock Posts: 2,320	Friendship like love are identical except for the sex. First off if they are true friends then they would not have supported you, while you where hurting you. By that I mean, if you smoke crack, they would have been there for you to help you quit. Not to supply and smoke it with you. Friends are like common sense. Not enough to go around. We use the word too loosely. Same with Uncle and Aunt. Anyway what hansy said with a few extra's thrown in. Usually one can count true friends with one or both hands. Glad you are re-evaluating your life and choosing a better path. Now lets see who can keep up with you. I rather have 1 or 2 true friends then 20 fakers or wanna be's. Its an extremely exclusive club in my world and takes years to get in.